Core Values

So, I've been working on a little exercise today. In a book I'm looking through, it asks you to define your core values. Not just define them, but rank the top 10. This is actually harder than it looks. Partly because there are a lot of things I value in a relationship, in myself, in life in general. So, I took some time today to think about these things and what they really mean to me. This is not only what I'm looking for in a relationship, but it's what I expect of myself. These are things I'm actively working on. Here's my list.



1. Authenticity/ Honesty/Openness - Being who you are and being open about it (volunteering information) as well as honest about it (being truthful when asked).

2. Faith/Spirituality/Godliness - Believing in something greater than yourself, Believing that God is out there somewhere and made us, and specifically, having a personal relationship with Jesus, and actively pursuing a deeper understanding and relationship with God.

3. Commitment /Dependability - Sticking with it even when it's hard. Doing what you say you're going to do, even when it's hard.

4. Sensual/Sexual - Having a healthy understanding and response to sexual desires. A healthy sexual appetite and being confident enough to know what you like and letting your partner know what those preferences are.

5. Truth/Integrity - Telling the truth in a way that does not demean the other person. Holding yourself to standards where you will not be dishonest in the little things in life.

6. Playful/Creativity/Musical - knowing how to cut loose and have fun, joke around, play, laugh, enjoy life. Being creative in art, photography, music or another creative outlet.

7. Kindness/Compassion - genuine concern over the physical, emotional, spiritual or mental condition of other people, or animals. Being gentle with those around you when the situation requires gentleness.

8. Self-Awareness - knowing who you are, and being ok with that. Not swayed by other people's desires or interests. Being true to yourself, and knowing your own flaws and areas that need growth.

9. Learning/Intelligence/Curiosity - Seeking new ways in which to view the world, or information, or learn a new skill. Thinking critically about situations, or events, or ideas. Being able to find out more information about a topic, or bring a new perspective to a discussion.

10. Peaceful - Someone who craves and enjoys peace. Who strives to live at peace with friends and neighbors and actively creates harmony in relationships.